There were very few times that my mum was ever disappointed in me. In fact, I can tell you how many. Two. Twice in my life my mum was ever disappointed in me. I mean…. she had many reasons and opportunities to be disappointed. What I put that woman through at times is unforgivable. But…
Author: outoftheshadows18
My name is Kendra Houseman. I have been involved with Gangs, Exploitation and CSE for over 26 years on many different levels. I am originally from South West London. A complicated background, living in an inner-city estate, and a lack of communication between adults are just some of the factors that lead to me having to make some life changing choices starting at the age of 11. These choices led to many consequences and created “Blondy” the name and person I was known as on the streets of SW London.
Knees deep in the Trap
To say we didn’t like each other the first time I met him would not be a lie but also not quite the truth. I would say it was more that we were indifferent to each other. I had been told about him for a long time. By other professionals, people in the local community…
Domestic Abuse: But I never beat you….
Domestic Abuse: But I never beat you…. It has taken me a long time to realise that we need to talk about domestic abuse in a raw manner. Yes, lots of people talk about domestic abuse and violence, but we only really hear the extremes it can go to when someone is killed, or a…
Jumping Jack Frost, Ice T…..and Me
I was about 12/13 the first time I watched New Jack City. I was, for sure, way to young. I loved it. It was like watching how things were in my area amplified by 100. I remember watching it once and saying to the people with me “Imagine life was like that”. Little did I…
Bianca Boyce and Me- Laying Foundations.
I am in transition. If I was a website and you clicked on me, a page would come up saying “Under construction”. Or, if you want to be more romantic about it, I’m in a chrysalis, transforming into something amazing. The fact that I even recognise that is massive for me. It means that its…
I left broken and returned grown. My journey home.
I went home today. My real home. SW London. More than that…I went to the flat that I grew up in. The flat where my son took his first breath, and my mum took her last. The walls of that place have seen and felt every emotion I can think of. And I have been…
Your Daughter is Autistic
It’s been just over a week but only now I am able to take it in and write about it. I always imagined that when it happened, I would be writing this blog instantly, shouting it from the rooftops. But it hit deeper than that. Harder. Do you know how many people have not believed…
Our Prime Minister is a liar… Dawn Butler MP …Out of the Shadows Shero 2021
No words from me needed….Just read Dawns Epic speech below or watch the clip. Shero of 2021 The last 18 months have been a tale of the good, the bad and the ugly. The good is that the people of Brent and elsewhere have joined together to form mutual aid groups, religions have come together…
SAVE THE DATE: The first webinar!
14th September 2021 18:30-20:30 BST What happens when 3 friends get together and say, “This has to stop”? Well apart from a lot of swearing and cussing, great things start to manifest. Myself, Fiona Broadfoot and Gemma Aitchison are a force to be reckoned with in terms of violence against women and girls. They say…
Racists do not speak for me.
I have written…. deleted and then rewritten this blog several times. This happens when I am writing a blog and I can’t control my language, or my point is not clear. It does not happen often. There is no place for racism in our society. We all have a duty to call out racism when…
